A Katy Parent shares her struggles with stress
The school year is drawing to a close and it seems that life is as busy and chaotic as ever!Â As a parent, sometimes life can be stressful and at times, more than we can handle.Â One day, I had an â€œahaâ€ moment when I learned that I didnâ€™t need to absorb the stress of my loved ones.Â As I think about it now, I can remember the pit in my stomach, the rapid breathing, and the threatening headaches as my children shared their stress.Â â€œMom, Iâ€™m supposed to bring a red folder to school.Â Iâ€™ll get in trouble if I donâ€™t have it!Â Mom, did you wash my soccer shirt? I need it right now!Â Mom, I failed my English test today.Â Mom, can you bring me my lunch?Â I think I left it in the kitchen.â€
My, oh my, how my body would tense with the incessant stress!Â And, when things turned out badly, I blamed myself.Â It didnâ€™t matter that it was my daughter who had left her lunch, or my son who hadnâ€™t studied for his test, itÂ was now my stress.Â After many years of learning, I discovered a marvelous secret.Â I discovered that I could let my children own their own stress!Â It was no longer my stress…heaven knew I had enough of my own!Â With each pressing demand, I learned to take a deep breath, and remind myself that it wasnâ€™t my problem.Â (I know, it is much easier said than done, and sometimes I still feel stress, but, Iâ€™m improving!)Â
So, as the days pass, my children are learning that I am not their rescue hero.Â I am their mother. Yes, I will always be there to cheer them on, love them, teach them and support them in their journey, but, they need to worry about their own rescue efforts.Â What a calm feeling this gives me.Â The pressure is off.Â I find my responsibilities are much more manageable when I remove the panic factor.
How do you manage stress?Â Please share!