How do you teach yourÂ Katy kidsÂ good manners?
Let me first say that I am not writing this because my children have fabulous manners.Â In fact, when I recently received a call from my sonâ€™s elementary teacher, informing me that my son was over-doing it on the bodily noises, I paused to consider whether I was being effective in my teaching of good manners.Â So, I donâ€™t have all the answers, but I am a believer that good manners are not old-fashioned and that they definitely still apply. Â I think children and adults alike would benefit in reviewing and renewing polite behavior. Â Â Here are some of my mental ramblings on good manners:
The words please, thank you, excuse me, and Iâ€™m sorry are magical words in human interaction.Â It is amazing how polite words can diffuse tense situations and help calm emotion.Â On the playground, in the doctorâ€™s office,Â in the grocery store, and in our families, polite words are still very powerful.
The virtue of patience is needed at every stage of life.Â Just as I tell my young son to be patient while I finish up a project, I too, need to be patient when I am waiting in line or when I encounter a difficult situation.Â Patience with others, especially in times of difficulty, is a very positive trait.Â
I have met people who seem particularly gifted in human interaction.Â They are more interested in listening and understanding others than in talking about themselves.Â I have learned from these people that it is better to listen more than I talk, and that good manners consist of thinking of others before self.Â Â Â Â Â
I hope traditional etiquette doesnâ€™t fade with time.Â Good table manners, dating etiquette and respect for adults seem not to be as central to our teaching in this day and age.Â Call me old- fashioned, but, I loved it when my husband opened the door while we were dating and I still love it to this day!
How do you teach your children good manners?Â Please share a comment.