Show Your Katy kids that You Care
While attending a family reunionÂ last week, I observed my three-year old niece, Allison, in my sisterâ€™s arms.Â Many of our family members were talking with each other, and I overheard my niece say to her mother, â€œMommy, look at me!Â Mommy, I am talking to you!â€Â She then touched both of my sisterâ€™s cheeks and made my sister look her straight in the eyes.Â Allison then said, â€œNowâ€¦I want to talk to you.Â Are you listening to me?â€
Once my niece had her motherâ€™s eye contact, she was content.Â She then said, â€œI want to tell you something.Â I saw a bird flying over there.â€Â She beamed that she had been able to share with her mother what she had found so wondrous.Â Since witnessing this small interaction, I have become more aware of the necessity of giving eye contact so others know we are truly listening.Â
Last night I was busily running around the kitchen preparing dinner when my five-year old began chattering to me.Â He mirrored my movements, dodging this way and that as I opened the refrigerator, ran to the stove, cleared a dish, and wiped the counter.Â Suddenly I stopped my bustling as I realized he was doing exactly what my niece had done with her mother.Â He kept trying to get my eye contact so he could know I was truly hearing what he was trying to express.
When I realized this, I paused in my mayhem, bent to his level and focused on what he was saying.Â As I stopped, he too stopped and smiled, knowing that he had finally broken my frenetic pace.Â While listening to him, I realized that not only did he feel like I was listening, but I was truly understanding him more clearly.Â I understood him because I was still and focused.
In our crazy rushing, sometimes it really pays to slow down, pause and listen with full interest to our loved ones.Â I realized that if I am not listening with my eyes, I am notÂ fully listening.
How do you show others you are really listening to them?Â Post a comment.