Parenting your Katy kids is a learning process
I remember talking to my mother one day when my children were very young.Â I was tired and I told her how happy I would be when my children were older.Â â€œMotherhood will be so much easier!â€Â I said.Â Wise as she was, she said, â€œNo, it wonâ€™t be easier, in fact, it may be harder!â€Â At the time, this didnâ€™t sit well with me, and I wondered what could possibly be harder than late night feedings, colic, and temper tantrums.Â
Now, as my older children are entering their teenage years, I know what she was talking about.Â The physical demands of young children are indeed exhausting!Â But, the emotional demands of older children are just as, or more exhausting.Â I am just entering this stage of life, but, I am learning that I need to change as they change.Â I canâ€™t be the same mother to them that I was when they were little.
Let me illustrate what I mean.Â My teenage son is a night owl.Â Some nights it drives me crazy that he stays up so late!Â I know he will be tired the next day and he knows he will be tired the next day.Â Each night I say the same words:Â Â â€œHoneyâ€¦itâ€™s getting late.Â Please go to sleep soon.â€Â He is a wonderful boy and he often gives me a hug and says, â€œDonâ€™t worry.Â Iâ€™ll go to bed soon.â€Â Apparently his and my definitions of â€œsoonâ€ are very different, because he always ends up staying late.Â He is entering the season of independence and I am learning to choose my battles.Â Admittedly, he is doing fantastic in school, making good choices and is willing to help me whenever I need it.Â I suppose letting him manage his sleep schedule is something that I can live with.
Motherhood is indeed complex. Learning to adapt as my children grow and change is something I am working on!
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